Eight years today.
I married him. But I hardly knew him.
I thought I did. But I was wrong.
It took me a while to figure him out. But once I did…
It’s been smooth sailing from there.
I’ve grown considerably since the first day of my marriage. I started out as a hot-headed, I’m-always-right, must-have-the-last-word newlywed. Eight years later, I’m still always right. I just don’t voice it every single time now. We started out quite differently and still aren’t always on the same page. Coming from two different backgrounds, sometimes we aren’t even in the same book. In the beginning, I resented it. Now I embrace it and make it work. Or at least I try really, really hard. Marriage takes work. It’s not always rainbows and butterflies, it’s compromise that moves us along. (Name that tune!) I work hard. Real hard. Because my husband is worth it. Our relationship is worth it.
Eight years have flown by. Sometimes I just sit and stare at this man that was once a complete stranger that grew up on the other side of the world. I think about how God placed me in Rami’s care. Rami stepped up and said “I got this”. He does everything he can to make me happy. He does everything he can for our family. He does everything he can for our marriage. And for that, I thank him.
Happy anniversary to my beloved husband.
I just Love your Article , Happy Anniversary and May Allah bless more and more your life together , and i send you both a message full of love and respect !
Thank you Nisrine! Ameen!
Amnah! This is my first time on here and I love it! You’re an inspiration! And happy anniversary, okbal el meeya iA! Love, you’re favorite stranger 😛
Awww welcome to my secret life as a Muslim mom blogger 🙂
Thank you habibti! ‘Ukbal ‘indik wa joozik, inshaAllah.
Favorite stranger, indeed 🙂
Mashaallah!! May Allah bless you both and you girls. When I read your article I thought: ” finally a person who talks “real” about marriage”…Yeah, this is the word: REAL, you are a real person, and it made me feel good to read your post. Today, I will prepare his favorite cake and tell my hubby “thank you”…. This is how your article made me feel 🙂
Awww Kenza, that makes me feel so good to hear! Hope your hubby enjoyed the cake!
You should know me by now that I don’t sugar coat my life through my blog posts. I never want to paint an unrealistic picture of my life.
Thank you for your comment and kind words.
I pray that all of us single girls are blessed with kind, patient, loving and nurturing husbands inshallah. Congratulations and may Allah bless you both to be the coolness of each other’s eyes. Ameen.
InshaAllah Humaira!! Thank you, my dear. And Ameen 🙂
Happy Anniversary to both of u
Thank you Sanam.
Amnah, this is beautiful! Loved everything about this post. Happy anniversary to you both and may you always be blessed.
Thank you HijabiMommy! Alhamdulilah.
Congratulations on eight years! May Allah continue to bless your marriage.
Happy anniversary! May Allah give you many more!
Congratulations on your 8 years! I have been reading your blog all the way here in Malindi, Kenya for a while now. This has to be the best post!:-) I have been married a little over a year and I so feel you when you say that you were “hot-headed” “always right”….thats me now and so happy to see that somebody else went through it and you write about it so well. Reading this post was like as if it you were mirroring me. Keep up the great job you do with your family!
I love your writers voice and what a sweet tribute to your husband. Hope you had a wonderful anniversary and many more years to come! I noticed you are from the SF Bay Area also – who knows maybe we will be able to meet one day!